Do I Have Alexithymia? Tests, Signs & Symptoms

How much do you feel on an average day? If you mostly feel the same or fine – that might not actually be true. You might expeirence “emotional blindness” or “alexithymia”. That’s a condition where your nervous system has decided that emotions are just a bit much and it’s better to shut them off. Let’s […]

It’s a miracle you’re still alive (suicidal ideation)

Hi. What a title, huh? Well, here we are. I’m a psychologist, and this is an article about suicide for people who don’t want to kill themselves, but still find themselves saying things like:  I see you. I feel you. I was you.  All of these thoughts are a pretty big deal. They can be […]

Why You’re Not Following Through on Your Goals (Intention-Behavior Gap)

When we set a goal, most of us never follow through on it, let alone achieve it. Failing our goals is so common that New Year’s resolutions are almost seen as a joke: “Let’s see if I can stick to this one – bad track record so far, haha”.  Despite Nike telling us to “just […]

Checklist: How to hire the best productivity coach for you

Many productivity coaches make big promises about helping you “unleash your potential”. “Work with me”, they say, “you will eliminate procrastination forever and achieve your goals 10x faster”. But you have read All. The. Time Management Books. You are not new to the productivity game. So how can you know that working with a coach […]

What does a productivity coach do? Should you hire one?

Productivity coaching is for a) procrastinators and b) high achievers or c) people who manage to be both. Let’s have a look at what a productivity coach does and how they might be able to help you get the right things done with more ease. What does a productivity coach do in general? Simply put: […]

How to make habits stick for good

Habits are the key to automating your goals. When I set goals with coaching clients, we turn each of them into 1–3 tiny habits. Habits are the HOW that will get us to the end result the client wants. The beauty of habits is that once they’re established, they require little effort and willpower on […]

“I Don’t Love You Anymore” Is Not a Reason to Break Up

Falling out of love is one of the most accepted reasons for a break-up. It shouldn’t be. You can fall out of love with someone, but you can also fall in love with them over and over again. Because loving someone is a choice. That’s what people mean when they say “relationships are hard work”. […]

How to stop procrastinating and make work feel less scary

I’m in the more stressful phase of writing my BA thesis. So procrastination and I are in an intimate relationship right now. The hardest thing to do when you’re procrastinating is sitting down and getting started. And we have valid reasons for delaying work: Did you know that when you think about the thing you’re […]

Hey, what are your strengths?

Yesterday was a bad day. Not terrible, just one of those days when you feel off. I stared at my Bachelor’s thesis and couldn’t make sense of the statistics part. So of course, by the end of the day, I had discovered a new series on Amazon Prime (McMafia, terrible name, but two episodes in […]